He Says, She Says

He Says, She Says

SHE SAYS:

What is a good place to take a girl on a first date? I’m looking for something different than the average dinner and a movie

Ah how exciting! First dates, while known for being notoriously uncomfortable, really are quite exciting. If you can muster up the courage, take her dancing. If you’ve got moves, you’re guaranteed to impress her, but if you’ve got two left feet, she’s likely to laugh and think you’re adorable. A win win in my book. Plus dancing is an excuse to get close to her, maybe even spark something special. Dancing really not your forte? Pull a classic middle school move and ask a friend of hers what she might like to do. Keep it light, keep it fun, good luck.

 

Where does one go about to find an adventure partner?

Button up your favorite flannel don a classic red bandana to school each day. Then proceed to talk louder than needed about fun weekend plans of rock climbing in Minneapolis or kayaking down rivers or winter camping or hunting to find the best pancakes in the Twin Cities. When someone indicates interest, simply ask them to join you. Use the excuse that you can carpool to save the planet, adventurers usually love that stuff.

 

Can girls ask boys out? Or would that be weird?

I’m not going to crack a joke about this. If you want to ask a boy out, then please, ask a boy out. While it isn’t the norm of today, and some boys might not be used to this, go for it. Ask a boy or ask a girl (same goes for boys).

 

Why do people always judge girls for being promiscuous rather than guys? They’re just as promiscuous, if not worse!

I’m sure this double standard has nothing to do with the patriarchal society we live in today. Nothing at all. If girls are being judged for being promiscuous and boys are not, it’s because our society hasn’t reached a point where the same actions can be interpreted in the same way, regarding gender. Not to mention, people should have enough things to worry about to be spending their time concerned about other people’s private activities. If people are unable to see this rediculousness, they aren’t mature enough to be talking about anyone else’s promiscuity.

 

HE SAID:

What is a good place to take a girl on a first date? I’m looking for something different than the average dinner and a movie

A first date is a troublesome situation. Can’t be too formal, too relaxed, too cheap, or too expensive. Instead of the classic dinner and a movie, try and engage her interests. Go to a concert if she likes music; go dancing if she likes dancing… You get the point. It’s really less about what the place actually is and more about a location that makes both of you feel comfortable. So start with your options (what she likes to do) and then cross-reference them with your own preferences. Once there’s a match, go for it!

 

 

 

 

 

Where does one go about to find an adventure partner?

 

Wherever one goes when looking for an “adventure” partner. This question really means nothing to me. School? That sketchy alleyway? Who knows? The point of an adventure is that you don’t know or plan what’s going to happen, so do that and just let what happens happen.

 

Can girls ask boys out? Or would that be weird?

 

NOOO. How is this still a question? Girls can ask boys out. If that makes you uncomfortable, you can try to drop hints and all that stuff. But really, just ask him out. The reason that boys tend to feel uncomfortable about being asked out by a girl is a byproduct of society’s perception of what a normal relationship looks like. But screw that, do what you want.

 

Why do people always judge girls for being promiscuous rather than guys? They’re just as promiscuous, if not worse!

 

Good question; people suck.