February She Says/She Says

1.

Tough. You’ve just got to move on or deal with it. If they are both your friends and are both happy with their relationship, then that’s that. Essentially, try to act as a friend to them first and there should be no problems. This is just kind of a crappy situation.

2.

Find some new friends. This can be hard, but it doesn’t have to be all at once. Make some friends in other groups and if you naturally are drawn to that group, then it will all work out. Maybe you will even come to a new appreciation of your old friend group, but keeping a diverse group of friends is something that always helps.

3.

Manage the slide very carefully, as ironic as this sounds. If your slide becomes a freefall, bad stuff could happen. So just let your last semester be a relaxing, fun, and good wrap up to your high school experience. Don’t stress about things that won’t change your life, and remember you only have one semester left to make (or lose) memories.

4.

This question is so ambiguous that constructing a response is complete guesswork. Anyways, I don’t know, hire a professional dance troupe to spell out “Sweeeethearts?” with their bodies. Do anything.

5.

This is a difficult situation. Don’t just barge in with a total rant about the relationship, maybe start with small things and work your way up. If the relationship really is unhealthy and nothing is changing, you can either take a more direct route or tell someone else about it and have them talk to your friend. In the end, you have to use your judgment. Don’t hesitate to talk to your friend if what you see is a very bad problem, but it is ok to use restraint in some situations.

 

How do you deal with liking someone who’s in a relationship and both people in that relationship are your friends. I’ve tried to just move on but its not happening, help?

This is hard. But believe me when I say you need to move on, really truly. It’s not worth perusing and having to deal with splitting up two people you care about. If they’re happy, you should try to find a bit of happiness in that. If you’re finding that difficult, consider falling in love with someone, or better yet, something else instead. Discover a love for writing or a passion for sunrise bike rides. It sounds like time may be the only cure for this issue, so in the mean time, do your best to find ways to make yourself happy.

 

It’s my senior year and I’m looking around and am very dissatisfied with my friend group around me. I feel like I just don’t connect with these people like I used to and they don’t make me happy. Do I try and see the bright side? Or risk going through the rest of senior year without a group?

I’d be lying if I said I haven’t experienced this myself, in fact I think all seniors have some sense of this. Remember why you liked these people in the first place, what about them brought you joy? If you’re having difficulty answering that for yourself, just know that different times in your life call for different things, and you’re most likely in a new stage of your life, one that no longer correlates with your old friends. Muster up some confidence and talk to some new people, you might just strike gold and find the people you should surround yourself with at this stage of your life.

 

There’s only 1 semester left for seniors, any advice on what to do in this last semester before graduation?

Have fun. Many (not all) of the responsibilities of senior year have already passed, so take advantage of the hard work you’ve put in. Call your grandma up for a lunch date or spontaneously visit your favorite spots around town, and do it at 3am. Do what you can to enjoy it because you deserve it.

 

How should I ask someone to sweethearts?

This is terribly vague but if you’re bold enough, I suggest concocting a geocaching mission for them to embark upon. After sending them on a geographical goose hunt, you will place your beautiful, wonderful self at the final destination, with the proposition of attending the dance together.

 

How do you try and tell a close friend you don’t think their relationship is healthy for them anymore? Especially when the relationship started out good, but their significant other has changed for the worst. Do I be supportive or voice my concerns even if it might jeopardize our friendship?

You have a duty as a friend and as a human to say something. Think about yourself in this situation, and if you would want a friend to say something to you. If you choose to confront them, do so gently. They obviously don’t see the harm this relationship is having on them, so brashly shouting your distaste for the relationship is a poor idea. Be there to support them, not to fix them.